From the mailbag:
"Dear Mama Bear,
My eldest boy Ryan has told me that he thinks he's gay. I know that he's just shy around women, how can I help him become the man I know he can be?
At A Loss"
It's always tough when our kids follow the path that's right for them…and not for their parents.
Being gay is not a choice, you know….asking your son to be straight is like asking *you* to be *gay*.
And what's the chances of that, aye?
MamaBear believes that for the vast majority of cases, we're born hardwired into our sexual preferences.
It's not something you can change, but it *is* something you can support.
Your son is still the person you've loved your entire life. His sexual preferences has zero bearing (or at least, should have zero bearing) on those deep-seated emotions and the fact that he is still…*your* son.
Coming to terms with one's sexuality is tough enough without having to deal with people who think it's something that can be "fixed." And I know that your feelings are from the heart too….but you need to look at your son's choices thru his eyes…and his eyes only.
I'd recommend you check out the following resources:
They should give you lots of great coping advice.
In closing, AaL, treasure the fact that your son trusted you enough to come out to you.
As life continues, you'll realize….that's quite the incredible gift.