From the mailbag:
I'm a lesbian who is in a very stable relationship with my soul-mate.
We have a 12 year old daughter who is being teased at school for having two women as parents, and it's really bothering her to the point it affects our own relationship.
My daughter couldn't have two more loving parents imaginable, so I'd like to ask for your advice on how to help her cope.
Ah, lots of hugs for what you're going through.
Unfortunately in today's society, single-gender parents have a lot of stigmas not only they have to face…but their children too.
It's very difficult as you've seen.
The main thing you need to emphasize to your daughter is that love knows no gender.
If you're part of a loving couple, you walk that walk every day…and ideally your daughter sees it as well.
I found the following articles as well, they might be helpful:
- How to support children with gay parents
- Children with Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Parents
- Gay Parents Support and Social Group
and this organization has a wealth of information:
Remember that no matter what…the love you give your child *will* have a deep-seated impact even if currently emotions are raw. That will help hold your family together when times get tough.