Sometimes, our kids choose to get angry.
But because they're, well, kids, they don't realize that they're *choosing* to get this way.
Heck, they probably think their friends *made* them angry, or you as their parent *caused* them to get mad or what have you.
And that's totally understandable.
They need to internalize that they own their emotions, and that while they cannot control how others act…they *can* choose how they *react*.
Thus, today, tell your kids that it's okay to feel anger, but to take ownership of the fact…they're choosing to feel that way.
And they can then choose to let it go.
ps – that picture is of HS1 and HS2 after they collided face first with each other at class; notice the red mark on both their foreheads. I'm happy to report that HS2 was able to see the humor of it after HS1 explained it to him….
pps – speaking about anger, have you seen:
Sometimes our kids find themselves part of a mob.
Or possibly standing next to a group of other rabid vultures who are picking on someone.
Facing down a crowd…
It's scary, it *certainly* is that!
But….it's also the *right* thing to do.
Today, tell your child to lead by example.
If they see someone is being bullied, if at all possible, walk up to them, take them by the hand, comfort them and lead them away.
If not, report them to school authorities but also….
Go up to the kid afterwards and apologize for not standing up in the first place.
It is true that sometimes, we *are* too scared to make a stand. And honestly, while that is *wrong* with a capital W, it's a plain fact of life.
In other words, encourage your child to lead by example and either be there for the person in question, or man up, cupcake, enough to admit when they dropped the ball.
It's extremely empowering, indeed.
ps – speaking about leading by example, have you seen:
Sometimes your kids' friends just don't know how to ask for help.
And sometimes, they might simply want an acknowledgement that Hey! Things *will* get better, someday.
Today, tell your child to listen to what's *not* said when seeing a friend in need…and then perhaps offering a word or two of hope.
It will better both of their lives.
ps – speaking about compassion, have you seen:
Sometimes our kids….whine.
And sometimes they say, but "Mooooooom, it's not faaaaaair!"
My heart. It bleeds.
The thing is…life's *not* fair. And we as adults have to deal with that…constantly.
Which means, you do your child no favors at all if you try to shield them from this fact of life.
Thus, today….tell your child that while you empathize with his or her frustrations that whatever is not fair….well sorry kiddo, but you know….that's life.
Man up, cupcake!
It's a lesson they'll thank you for later on in life.
ps – speaking about things being unfair, have you seen:
Sometimes our kids feel most helpless indeed.
And that makes sense, of course….they're only *kids*!
Still, however….they *can* take control of things by the following plan.
Take *ownership* of their actions…and *change* the game.
Are they unhappy with how a friend has treated them?
- Have them bring it out in the open.
Do they hate doing their chores?
- Explain to them that they might hate the sun rising…but that doesn't change the fact it's going to happen anyways. They choose how to react.
Do they feel you never listen?
- Tell them to confront you calmly and bring it up.
In other words…
Today tell your children that they do *not* have to bow to all the pressures around them…they can *choose* how to act and how to change the game.
It's a very compelling philosophy indeed.
ps – speaking about taking control, have you seen some goodies for parents too?
Some kids are rather horrible vultures, y'know?
And other times….they are affected by their peers being mean to them as well.
Today, tell your child – it costs them nothing to offer a kind word…but the results can dramatically lift the spirits of others.
And that, of course, is a Very Good Thing indeed.
ps – speaking about kindness, have you seen:
Sometimes our kids take big huge bunches of things for granted.
And sometimes our kids let their drama queen tendencies get out of control.
And sometimes our kids hold onto mis-communications and misinterpreted intentions with both fists, 10 toes and an earlobe or two to boot.
Tell your kids today – life is precious.
And they're not invincible.
Death can strike them at a moment's notice….or their friends.
If they're hurting because of what friends say/do, or if they're mad because of what friends *did*, there's a possibility that miscommunications might play a huge part in their sad feelings.
But we've all failed mind-reading 101….so only talking things out will compel friends to understand.
So…encourage your children to remember how precious their lives are…and to mend bridges today.
You never know if tomorrow might be too late.
Sometimes it takes a heck of a lot of thunkin' to uncover the puzzle piece that answers the latest of your child's questions.
That's life. Man up, cupcake!
Tell your child today that yep, it really *is* frustrating when things require more effort than first thought.
But when they solve the issue for themselves…they'll gain a precious gift of knowledge that "making it easy" for them would never deliver.
And that's something that can never be taking away from them.
ps – speaking about puzzles, have you seen:
Got kids who keep on bellowing for you or their siblings to get them food?
Introduce them to their feet.
Feet are their friends.
The world won't run to satisfy their every needs…so they should internalize this at an early age.
Sometimes kids feel weak..and like they just cannot change anything at all.
After all, they're just *kids*.
Tell your children that indeed, they *can* make a difference.
If they give themselves permission to recognize the value they possess within them…they can change worlds.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure!!
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, let me ask you….who are you not to be?" by Marianne Williamson
Tell your children:
Believe in yourself….everyone who loves you…already does.