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How To STOP Brother and/or Sister Teasing From Destroying Your Family

MamaBear has some words of wisdom for you, she really does.

And it's this.

Never ever *ever* get between her and her 38th cup of coffee in the morning!

Truly, attempting this foolhardy adventure is more dangerous than testing the tensile strength of a Mylar balloon via the edge of a brand new machete.

But I digress.  🙂

Let's get onto the topic of the day! 

If there's one thing MamaBear hates, it's this.

Ready?

Siblings (ie, brothers, sisters) who tease one another.

Oh. My. Gosh.

It's guaranteed to not only send me into orbit, but cause the creation of brand new, squeaky-clean galaxies via the black hole that springs into being.

In other words, I'm utterly insane about there being a complete and total absence of teasing in my household.

Well!

There we were this morning.  I was making French Toast for HS1 (ensuring the cinnamon and vanilla and honey and everything were all dancing together in perfect peace and harmony, much like:

No, I did *not* just date myself, why do you ask?

But I digress yet again!  🙂

Anywhos!

All of the ingredients were melding themselves together like coffee and zero-calorie sweetener, when HS2 strolled into the kitchen and started something similar to….this.

Followed by,

"You didn't do your chores last night!"

For some reason, HS2 didn't notice me standing at the counter and start to smolder like 3 cubic tons of fireworks.

That was, until HS2 noticed HS1 looking in my general direction.

So, very quietly, I asked HS2,

  • "Are you teasing your brother?"

and he immediately responded,

  • "Why yes mother, it certainly does appear that I lapsed in my general attitude towards my brother and indulged in great idjutness."

Okay, that was a total lie.  He really said,

  • "No!"

To which I said,

  • "Are you lying to me?"

And amazingly (really!) his answer was….

  • "Yes."

Okay, well, really…it's kinda sorta difficult to say, "Jeepers Mom, even though I was Nah nahing to my brother, of *course* I wasn't teasing him!  I was…um…..praising him and it's opposite day so I wanted you to *think* I was teasing him and…."

So I quietly reminded him how Lings do *not* tease, how he's much better than that, and how he will now be doing his brother's chores for the next few days as a consequence.

He accepted this punishment as deserved (yay!).

Which brings me to the point of this post!

To stop your kids from teasing one another, simply:

Address the situation:

  • Right then and there
  • Comfort the teasee
  • Tell the teaser he or she is much better than that and how they've dishonored themselves
  • Give whatever consequences are deserved *right at that moment*.

Remember…

The key to halting teasing between siblings is consistency!

Do *not* let them get away with it, even once. Implement any consequence that gets the point home.

And if the teaser complains, double the consequences.

It might take some time, it definitely cause big huge amounts of grey hairs to take up residence on your head, but trust me on this…

Stomping out teasing between brothers and sisters is a Very Good Thing Indeed.

Do you have any other ideas?  I'd like love to hear them below!

Parent powerfully,

— MamaBear

 

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Comments

  1. Reply

    Sounds good. Since I have not children to test it on – and the neighbors won’t let me borrow theirs -I’ll have to try it on my doggies.

    One question though: if after dispensing justice the teasee immediately turns to his brother and says, “Ha! You got waht you deserved, so there!” do you give the chores back? With interest?

      • Mama Bear
      • June 2, 2011
      Reply

      Allan you wondrous human bean you, how utterly *fantastic* to see you here!!

      My gosh, if the teasee was idjut enough to do that, oh wow…they’d *both* then be wrong, so they’d *both* get their other siblings chores, and maybe my chores, and perhaps the laundry, and oh wait, yes, hmmm…lessee….scrubbing the toilet?

      My kids have learned to be grateful for the *first* consequence, because subsequent consequences go up exponentially. 🙂

  2. Reply

    You run a tight ship! My kids are a little bit younger – 6 and 2. To be honest, I’m not sure how I’ll deal with that yet… we also run a tight ship, but possibly not as tight as yours! I truly believe that children must have very strong (not harsh) boundaries. Their job is to push at these boundaries to see how strong they are – that’s why they’ll always play up at some points. As long as you stick to your guns, the kids are happy and feel secure. If they have no boundaries, then they can’t feel secure because there’s nothing to bang up against!

      • Mama Bear
      • June 3, 2011
      Reply

      Hi Dan!

      That’s what it’s all about – boundaries and security!

      They might end up pushing against them, mind you, but make sure they feel secure…and it gets easier in a way as they get older.

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